Dating in real life “porn”


Photo by Andrea Piacquadio from Pexels
Photo by Andrea Piacquadio from Pexels

This might be a controversial issue, but it is an important issue, and an issue that needs solving.

9 out of 10 boys and 6 out of 10 girls will be exposed to pornography before the age of 18. What’s more, in a study that polled children about pornography exposure before the age of 13, half of the male children and one-third of the female children will have been exposed to pornography in some way. For the male children, almost a third will be exposed to pornography before they are 10 years old. Perhaps the most troubling part is that the majority of exposure (about two thirds of the group) is unwanted and unwarranted.

Easy access to online pornography and the potential harm of consistent exposure raise concerns about children’s health and well-being. The Internet has made children’s access to pornography a more significant issue. Children and youth who use email or surf the Internet are at risk for unwanted exposure to pornography.

What is the problem? Pornography is associated with unsafe sexual health practices such as not using condoms and unsafe anal and vaginal sex. Gaps between expectations and reality can produce “sexual uncertainty” about sexual beliefs and values and may also be related to sexual dissatisfaction, anxiety and fear.

Below are some of the harmful effects that pornography has on children. For more information just google the issue. There is plenty of information available.

  • Seeing unfamiliar looking bodies engaging in acts that a child cannot comprehend is a confusing and frightening experience for a child or adolescent.
  • Children or adolescents may experience autonomic sexual arousal at the sight of pornography, which can confuse them into thinking they “like” what they see, when in fact their bodies are reacting instinctively without the “approval” of their brain.
  • Children and adolescents can become “de-sensitized” to pornography exposure and this can result in acting out sexualized behaviors with other children and engaging in high-risk sexual experiences by adolescents.
  • Aggression towards women.
  • Both male and female consumers of pornography had increased levels of self-objectification and body surveillance.
  • Adolescent pornography use is associated with stronger beliefs in gender stereotypes, particularly for males. Male adolescents who view pornography frequently are more likely to view women as sex objects and to hold sexist attitudes such as women “leading men on”.

In the absence of other information, pornography can be the main source of a young person’s sex education. This is the issue, so what is the solution?

I think a possible solution lies with the creation of more educational “porn” based on real and normal experiences that adolescents can watch for sexual education. The educational pornography would have to meet classification guidelines and obviously, it could NOT be made R rated for adolescent viewing.

In my opinion these “pornographic” episodes should be based on real and normal experiences that teenagers and young adults might experience. Tinders dates, first dates, parties, clubbing, first time sexual experiences and awkward experiences. I think it would be helpful for teenagers to know that dating and sex is healthy, but it can also be fun, thrilling, awkward, uncomfortable and should most importantly be safe.

You’ll have to do your research. No one wants to watch bad videos, and they will need to be quality and engaging for the audience.

It’s a tricky issue, but what do you think? Could this actually solve the problem and make a successful business?

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